My D-bomb hit exactly 2 years ago, almost to the day (Feb 8 2020). I was the NMMNG personified, basically my entire life, but was living it as if I had no clue. I had no clue. It was a great 25 year marriage, until it wasn't great anymore. I'm very fortunate and grateful that I wasn't married to a crazy, mean person all those years. My ex is a good mother and a good person, and more importantly, I am now a happily divorced man!
I was connected with Dennis in March '20, and it was the best thing that ever happened to me as a man. The. Best. Thing. Ever. I feel like I caught myself pretty quickly and realized there was no way I could stay married. My ex had just come out and told me, she'd cheated 15 years ago (I didn't know that) and currently "had feelings for someone that she worked with for 20 years". Translation: she'd been in an affair with this guy for quite some time, and was letting me down easy.
Working with DC and finally, FINALLY looking in the mirror was so powerful for me, it was like every cell in my body was altered. I felt that pain, the one that I couldn't comprehend and wouldn't wish on the devil himself. It was incredibly awful, but then it went away when I finally opened my eyes.
I had the privilege of being able to work with Coach Dennis in the summer of 2020. As a coach, I found Dennis to be very proactive in his approach. He took time to get to know me and my situation. Dennis immediately had a plan of how he could support me. He led the sessions and provided meaningful homework. One time I even called him on the phone out of the blue when I was having a particularly rough day and he answered and was very supportive and helpful! Dennis also leads a community of men and this coupled with his coaching sessions provided me with a complete circle of support. He was also a blast to work with!
Most importantly, Dennis gave me the skills and abilities to monitor myself; he gave me a men’s compass which I’m still able to use to this day. Now I’m not perfect - but I don’t want to be :)
I’ve worked with counsellors and therapists but have never had an experience even close to that of my time with Coach Dennis.
I fully recommend his coaching to any men looking for solid personal support and growth.
My wife told me for years that I was a great father, a great husband and a great man. I believed her. And then she told me she had an affair years ago, that I never knew about, she was having another affair for the past year, and she was leaving me for greener grass on the other side of the fence.
I knew that all of the Good Guy talk was BS so I looked in the mirror and discovered that I didn't really like what I saw. The prospect of facing life alone felt frightening, and I didn't know what to do. I DID NOT know what to do.
I reached out to GG2GM and they put me in contact with Dennis. His first words to me were, "You got this. It's going to be okay." Whether or not I actually believed him at the time, his words would prove to be 100% correct. He also promised me that he didn't give a shit whether or not my marriage worked out or not. That really struck me at the time, that this wasn't going to be the same BS that I was finding in marriage counseling. Talk about honesty!!
We hit on all topics, and it was the first time in my life (I'm 53) that I've really connected and had radical communication with another man. Our calls were life altering for me, and the connection that we made changed me down to my core. The timing and the subject matter was spot on, brutally honest and made me willing to open myself to becoming the best version of myself that I've ever experienced. My mindset has flipped in such a positive way that I really don't even recognize the "Good Guy" that I was six months ago.
My marriage ultimately didn't work out after 25 years. Dennis was correct in that I'm all good, I got this. I'm excited and unafraid of what the unknown holds, because I now know who's going to be responsible for my future. That would be me, and only me. I know my life isn't perfect, and that's okay too. One thing is for sure, I won't be going it alone and I feel like I've made a friend for life in GG2GM and Dennis Collins. Thanks my man, I got this.
The below was posted to a private men's group by my client M.M.
Guys, for anyone on the fence regarding one to one coaching, here’s a little perspective...The man, the legend Dennis J. Collins has worked with me over the past few months, giving me some of the best and most personalized coaching that I have ever received. All I can say is that my life has improved remarkably. Relationships, business, personal growth, spirituality and purpose have all improved beyond anything I thought possible.
Couple this with the Roundtable, and the amazing brothers on here, my whole outlook on life has changed, for the better!
Figure out your purpose/mission. Attitude of Gratitude and giving to others Find some great men to learn from and hang with. It’s not about you 99% of the time. Find the emotion behind the words. View challenges as just that and see what you can learn from them. Do what you say you’re going to do. Plan date nights. You can only do you, you don’t have any control over anyone else, but you can lead the way.
I had a couple introductory calls with Dennis before enrolling into his coaching program. The relief that I had from those initial phone calls and knowledge gained was pivotal in my life at the time. To have someone in your corner who knows exactly what is going on in your life and how to handle the situations is tough to put an adjective to but was nothing short of amazing.
I was blindsided one day from my wife saying, “We need to talk. Part of me doesn’t want to be with you anymore.” The “part of me” piece was basically softening the fact that she had already made up her mind that she was out. I tried pleading with her to “not quit on us”, asking her what I could do to make things better, making promises to do thing differently and arguing with her (pro tip, don’t try these) to no avail, she was done.
As I am a finance and accounting nerd and can be (what’s that nice word for cheap?) …. frugal with money. I also find it a lot easier for me to spend money on others or give gifts than it is to spend money on myself. Spending the money to work with Dennis seemed like a lot at the time and he was straight forward in the fact that he had no interest in saving my marriage. He was in this to make me a better person and, whatever the outcome of my situation, to come out on the other side in a better place. So here I was with the decision to spend a few grand to work with Dennis while still having the potential of divorce or save a few grand, going through a divorce blind and feeling miserable along the way. Ultimately, the relief I had felt from the two introductory calls and the change I could see happening pushed me over the edge.
Where I am at now: Having gone through the program I can honestly say it has been worth every penny. I equate the money spent similar to my college education and has been a great investment in myself. I’m one of the fortunate ones whose marriage turned around, but more importantly I’m a better person, leader, husband, father and employee at the end of the day. I no longer walk on eggshells around my wife. I no longer let her bad moods dictate mine or make them about me.
Dennis Collins is a man who has been through it before and as such is very helpful to anyone who is currently going through it. I reached out to Dennis when I was going through divorce with my now ex wife. His passion and understanding were invaluable too me to understand where I had gone wrong and what I needed to do going forward. I remember that with ever email he sent he would say "you got this" just remembering this got me through a lot of hard times.
Dennis thanks for everything brother.
I worked with Dennis when going through an incredibly difficult time in my life. Dennis helped me get clarity with some very difficult personal issues which allowed me to make good decisions that were best for my long-term interests.
His ability to connect and understand me, then cut through the emotional clutter and get to the heart of the problem was awesome. His insights were invaluable. If you are struggling, you will find his coaching the best investment you can make in yourself!